In case you are unaware of these odd phenomenons that often happen on on-line groups (and occasionally in real life), they are where people sign up to send a gift to another member in secret. Then often have a low budget like under £10. You then have a separate group where people discuss what they like/don’t like/are allergic to/wants and needs.
Why do we do it too ourselves?
I have been involved in many SS/SEB/SBF over the years and they seem to be the most stressful things going.
The people who organise them must be mad unless you use a third party to make the pairings. They also then need to keep kicking people to make sure they have purchased and sent the gifts. They also need to make sure people post with things they like or dislike.
Once you have your partner the mega stress begins. If you have a close friends then you are quids in but when your partner is someone who you barely speak to it is a nightmare to choose a suitable gift.
People usually pick some boring chocolates, sweets, mug or socks. I feel if you are only going to buy this type of crap then don’t bother joining in. It just shows you have no imagination or thought into the person you are buying for.
I like to choose rude gifts if I can (speaks more to my personality that the giftee to be honest). Obviously if I get someone nun like then I won’t get that type of gift. I also try and get thoughtful gifts ( to go alongside the rude bits).
With one of my SS this year I got the perfect person. We have been friends for 9 year as her youngest and my eldest were both due in the same month. She has had a tough time recently so I knew exactly what to get her. Granted if she hadn’t have been my SS I would have bought her the gift anyway.
Once the gift has been wrapped and parcelled up then you have to get to the post office. I was so late posting my SS this year as the kids got sick and I couldn’t get out and couldn’t convince anyone to come over and care for them.
Once your gift is sent you are then waiting on tenter hooks for the person to comment that it has arrived and then you are constantly checking the post waiting for your gift.
Many people wait for their gift to arrive before sending their gift out. This defies the point of it. If everyone involved did that then no one would receive a gift. I get it is a pain when people take a gift but don’t send one but that it part of the ‘excitement’ of being part of it.
Once the time has come to open the gift you then need to make sure that you take photos of the gift and do a overly enthusiastic post thanking your SS/SEB/SBF. If these posts are not done then people get pissed off. It doesn’t take much to post a thank you. I think if you don’t do it then you shouldn’t be allowed to participate in the next one.
Oh well, by the time it comes back around I will have forgotten how stressful it was and be one of the first in the queue to sign up.